The Third Lap

By Craig Watson

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Imagine you finish a group ride feeling frustrated. You have lost the group on two climbs, and you are already thinking about what to change. More hill work seems the obvious answer.

When you mention it to a coach, they ask, “What happens just before you lose the group?”

You talk through the ride. You were near the back when the road went up. You chased an early acceleration, then struggled to settle. On the longer, steadier climb, you stayed with everyone.

Now there is more to work with. The conversation can explore your positioning and how you start each climb, alongside your fitness. You have a clearer picture of what happened before anyone adds another demanding session to your week.

If you are looking for an endurance coach, pay attention to moments like this. The questions a coach asks can tell you a great deal about how they intend to help you.

At The Third Lap, we begin with your history, your priorities and the training information you choose to share. The aim is to understand what you need help with and agree on clear next steps.

Your experience deserves a closer look

You bring more to coaching than a goal and a record of completed sessions. You bring the way training feels, the decisions you make during a ride or run, and the things you find difficult to explain afterward.

A coach who takes time to understand those details has something specific to respond to. You can describe why a session frustrated you without having to arrive with the answer yourself.

You might say, “I’m fed up with that workout.” A useful response could be, “Which part is bothering you?” You may want help understanding its purpose. You may be unsure how hard to start. Or you may want to explain what happened before deciding whether anything needs to change.

That conversation should give you room to be honest. You should feel able to say that an instruction was unclear, that you made a different decision, or that a recommendation does not seem to fit what you experienced.

When you are choosing a coach, look for that willingness to stay with your experience long enough to understand it.

Expect questions that help you see your options

Good questions are useful when they bring something into focus.

In the group-ride example, “Where were you when the climb started?” gives you a particular moment to examine. “What was different on the climb where you stayed with the group?” invites you to look beyond the two that went badly.

You may also hear a pointed alternative: “Have you considered whether the effort before the climb is part of the problem?”

There should be room for your answer to change the conversation. If that explanation does not fit, you should be able to say so. A coach can challenge your interpretation while remaining interested in what you noticed.

This is worth looking for when you speak with a prospective coach. Do they follow up on something you have said? Do they check that they have understood? When they offer an alternative, can you see how it relates to your situation?

Those are useful signs that the conversation is about helping you make sense of your training.

You should leave with a clear next step

Being listened to matters, and you are also looking for guidance.

After talking through a problem, you should understand what your coach recommends and why. In that hypothetical ride, the next step might be to work on your position before a particular climb, then discuss what you noticed afterward. You would know what to pay attention to and how it connects to the problem you brought up.

You should also be able to ask, “Why this approach?” without feeling awkward. A clear explanation gives you a reason to commit to the work and a way to discuss it if something does not make sense.

A coach still needs to take responsibility for their recommendations. Where a decision needs a direct answer, or a concern needs addressing, you should expect them to be clear. You are choosing someone whose judgment you can draw on as well as someone who listens.

Choose a relationship you can work in

Before committing to coaching, ask how you would work through a session that did not go as expected. Ask how you would raise a concern or discuss an idea of your own.

Listen for an answer you can picture in practice. You want to know how the conversation would lead to a recommendation, what you would be asked to contribute, and how you would review what happened next.

Consider how you feel during that discussion. Have you had space to explain what matters to you? Do the answers connect with what you said? Can you imagine asking for help when training feels uncertain, as well as sharing the days that go well?

If you want to work with a coach who asks questions and takes time to understand how to help, start a conversation with The Third Lap. Let’s talk about your goals, what you want from coaching, and whether working together is a good fit.